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This Is How We Do It | Compel

Drew Bridges | Compel

We are hard wired for relationship. God created us to be in community with others, pursuing relationships of all kinds. The way God designed relationship is not the way the world designs them. In fact, our culture has done a full 180 on God’s idea of a good relationship. So, how do we do this thing called relationship? How do we honor God? How do we stay Kingdom-minded through it all?

We put God first. It’s the first thing God asks us to do – love Him. He deserves more than our free time, more than our leftovers. He deserves first place and first priority.

We set boundaries. This “hook-up” culture tells us that if we don’t lead with physical connection, it will never work. But when we take time to honor God by putting him first, we see that restricting the flesh actually leads to spiritual freedom.

We have accountability. This means being honest and up front with people in your life who can speak God’s will over our lives. We have to allow others to sow into our relationships.

We practice patience. Love it patient. We wait, we pray, we stay focused on God, and we do not run headfirst into intimacy.

We get equally yoked. When we are partnered up with people who have the same values, priorities, and practices as us, we are better able to honor God through our relationship.

We sacrifice. Before looking inward, we have to look outward. It’s what Jesus did during His time on earth. Practicing giving, serving, and putting others first keeps us humble. Order affects outcome.

We have grace. God calls us to go against society, to not conform to the world. We are called to be a city on a hill, illuminating the dark around us. And the only real way to do this and to do it well is to have grace for others. For the lost, for the searching, for the times we all make mistakes – we have to have a gentle heart and a forgiving spirit.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.